“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (Jeremiah 29:11)
As a parent, many have adult children that choose not to, or have very limited contact with thier parent’s after they leave home. For those who are or have experienced this, the pain of estrangement can feel like a heavy weight on your heart. You may find yourself questioning where things went wrong, replaying moments in your mind, and grappling with feelings of abandonment. It’s easy to feel isolated, especially when your adult children have chosen silence over connection.
In the midst of this pain, you may also face judgment from others. Friends, family, or acquaintances may hear about your situation and jump to conclusions, assuming you must have done something wrong. Their judgment, often based on limited understanding, can add to your heartache. It’s painful when others fail to see the complexities of family dynamics and the unique struggles that you face.
In these moments of deep sorrow, we must remember that our worth is not defined by our relationships with others, no matter how painful the current situation may be. God sees your heart and knows the love you have poured into your children. He understands the confusion and hurt that come when they turn away, and He knows the truth of your situation.
Jeremiah 29:11 reminds us of God’s sovereign plan for our lives. Even when we cannot see the way forward, we can trust that He is working behind the scenes for our good and His glory. Perhaps this time of estrangement is an opportunity for growth—for you, for your children, and within your relationship with God.
Take a moment today to write a letter to your children, expressing your love and hopes for reconciliation. Even if you never send it, this act can be a powerful release of your feelings. When faced with judgment from others, remind yourself that their perceptions do not define your reality. Consider reaching out to a trusted friend or support group who can walk alongside you during this difficult time. Remember, you are not alone in this journey, and God is with you every step of the way.
Prayer:
Heavenly Father, I come to You with a heavy heart, burdened by the silence that fills my relationship with my children. I feel lost and abandoned, and I long for the connection we once had. Help me to trust in Your plans for my family, even when I don’t understand them. Grant me peace in the midst of this pain, and remind me that I am never truly alone. May Your love fill the spaces created by estrangement, and may I find comfort in Your presence. I pray for my children, that they may find their way back to You and to me. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
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Rob Lavallee
Scriptural Seeds Ministries
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