“Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.” (Proverbs 22:6)

If you are a parent of an adult child who struggles with substance abuse and other destructive behaviors, such as disrespect, dishonesty, and stealing, it can be heart-wrenching. It often raises feelings of helplessness, frustration, and sorrow. Yet, the Bible offers us guidance on how to navigate these challenging circumstances with grace and wisdom.

1. Pray for Them:
   Our first response should be to pray. James 5:16 reminds us that “the prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” Pray for your child’s heart to be softened, for their eyes to be opened, and for the Holy Spirit to work in their lives. Trust that God is bigger than their struggles and that He can bring about change in His perfect timing.
2. Set Boundaries with Love:
   While it is painful to see our children make poor choices, it’s essential to establish healthy boundaries. Ephesians 4:15 encourages us to speak the truth in love. This means being honest about the impact of their actions on themselves and others, while also expressing your love and concern. Boundaries can protect both you and your child and encourage them to take responsibility for their actions.
3. Model Christ-like Behavior:
   As parents, we have the opportunity to model the love and grace of Christ. Galatians 6:1 instructs us to restore someone caught in sin gently. This can mean showing kindness, patience, and understanding, even when it feels undeserved. Your example can be a powerful influence in their lives.
4. Encourage Professional Help:
   Sometimes, the struggles our children face require professional intervention. Encourage them to seek counseling or rehabilitation. Proverbs 15:22 states, “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers, they succeed.” Providing them with resources or support in finding help can show that you care about their well-being.
5. Stay Connected:
   Maintaining a relationship with your child, despite their choices, is vital. 1 Peter 4:8 reminds us to “love each other deeply.” This may mean showing unconditional love, even when you disagree with their actions. Regularly check in, offer support, and let them know they are not alone.
6. Trust in God’s Plan:
   Finally, remember that God has a plan for your child, even when it seems lost. Jeremiah 29:11 reassures us that God knows the plans He has for us, plans to prosper and not to harm us. Hold onto this promise, trusting that God can turn their life around, no matter how hopeless it may seem.

“As you walk this difficult path, remember that you are not alone. Lean on your faith, seek community support, and trust in God’s unfailing love for you and your child. As hard as it may be, try to embrace the journey with hope and perseverance, knowing that change is possible with Jesus.”

Prayer:
Heavenly Father, I come before You with a heavy heart for my child. I ask for Your grace and wisdom to navigate this challenging relationship. Help me to love them as You love them, to set boundaries that protect both of us, and to pray fervently for their transformation. May Your will be done in their life, and may they come to know Your love and redemption. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

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Rob Lavallee

Scriptural Seeds Ministries

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